Thursday, June 26, 2008
Tuesday, June 24, 2008
Are you really deeply into it?
Somebody once told me that "Finding the right person is very hard and very wrong
.....it is best to be the right person for the one you love and start from there...
you'll always end up disappointed when you set standards and define a "right person" for you...
and don't rush things....coz somewhere somehow God is preparing somebody for you."
You can never be perfect...the person you love can never be perfect...but both of you can be perfect through love and prayers
, and your love can be perfect through the both of you. But, no relationship is complete without God....
.that's why we have marriage it's a bond not only between you and your loved one....but also with God.
Our relationships fail not because (s)he's not the right person....it's because we expected too much and we decided on our own.
...let God do the work...you may call it waiting time....but while you are waiting...pray.
Let God guide you always...He knows better. No, He knows best.
Love is not what you think it is....Sometimes we mistakenly feel that our first relationship will be our last.
Because we are overwhelmed with joy and romance, we forget to learn the meaning of truelove.
Some are saying that love is unselfish, blind, unconditional or simply denying oneself for the sake of someone very important in our life.
Others are saying love is immortal and can never be defined. When we think we're in love the first thing
we almost wanted the whole world to know is that our love for someone very special can never be taken away from us.
We say this phrase "You are the most wonderful gift from GOD I have ever received..." And after a terrible fight or sometimes even a petty quarrel we then say "
You are the biggest mistake i've ever made for my entire life...!!!!". Now, how do you say and spell the word L-O-V-E? Are you really deeply into it?
Nobody can tell what love really is until experience speaks and whispers right into our ears.
Most of the time, these love promises like "Forever, till Death do us apart, etc." would end up "Never" and "We should part ways,
I'm no longer happy with you! My love for you is DEAD!!!".
Many times we thought after having committed to someone and your trust to one another freezes down to zero degree "She/He ain't the right one."
But the big question anyone could not answer is "Is she/he the right one?" and "When is the right time?"
That made us stick to whom we are with. Will you always be waiting for the right person to come and the right time to commit?
A big YES is the answer. Don't be in a hurry to get into a relationship because you can never find love if you insist that you are already into it.
Try to find time to really understand your real feelings, to know who you really are, and what you really want in a relationship.
You're right, There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, but there's a compatible partnership that goes along with it.
If you already knew that you're too big to fit into a small sized t-shirt, don't give it a try. You'll probably break it and pay for the damages you have made.
If you knew and felt that the relationship will not last, don't go deeper into it. You'll just suffer the consequences and live like hell the rest of your life.
It's really hard to say goodbye though, but you can't make it any better by just pretending you still have the same feelings.
Try to let go and give yourself a chance to live life to the fullest. Give yourself a chance to grow and give your heart a much needed attention.
Then you will find that you have made the right decision and you made it all by yourself. More frequently than not, we all act in a hypocritical manner for some reason.
We call it love when we can't leave someone and see them crying as we try to let go. We are wrong, it's just pity.
We call it love when we're too attached and think that losing the one we love will somehow make us weak and unable to face the storms of life.
We misunderstood, its just that we're too much dependent to them. We call it love when we give our whole life to them, the wholeness of us
and imagined that if they leave no one would accept us and our past.
We are mistaken, its just insecurity. But no matter what the definition is, the truth still remains that love isn't something you can buy nor beg.
It is real and existing. You can't touch it but you can feel it in your heart. You can't find it, but it will knock before you when you least expect it to come.
It can make you the happiest soul in heaven, but don't forget that it also can make you the most miserable person in the whole galaxy.
.....it is best to be the right person for the one you love and start from there...
you'll always end up disappointed when you set standards and define a "right person" for you...
and don't rush things....coz somewhere somehow God is preparing somebody for you."
You can never be perfect...the person you love can never be perfect...but both of you can be perfect through love and prayers
, and your love can be perfect through the both of you. But, no relationship is complete without God....
.that's why we have marriage it's a bond not only between you and your loved one....but also with God.
Our relationships fail not because (s)he's not the right person....it's because we expected too much and we decided on our own.
...let God do the work...you may call it waiting time....but while you are waiting...pray.
Let God guide you always...He knows better. No, He knows best.
Love is not what you think it is....Sometimes we mistakenly feel that our first relationship will be our last.
Because we are overwhelmed with joy and romance, we forget to learn the meaning of truelove.
Some are saying that love is unselfish, blind, unconditional or simply denying oneself for the sake of someone very important in our life.
Others are saying love is immortal and can never be defined. When we think we're in love the first thing
we almost wanted the whole world to know is that our love for someone very special can never be taken away from us.
We say this phrase "You are the most wonderful gift from GOD I have ever received..." And after a terrible fight or sometimes even a petty quarrel we then say "
You are the biggest mistake i've ever made for my entire life...!!!!". Now, how do you say and spell the word L-O-V-E? Are you really deeply into it?
Nobody can tell what love really is until experience speaks and whispers right into our ears.
Most of the time, these love promises like "Forever, till Death do us apart, etc." would end up "Never" and "We should part ways,
I'm no longer happy with you! My love for you is DEAD!!!".
Many times we thought after having committed to someone and your trust to one another freezes down to zero degree "She/He ain't the right one."
But the big question anyone could not answer is "Is she/he the right one?" and "When is the right time?"
That made us stick to whom we are with. Will you always be waiting for the right person to come and the right time to commit?
A big YES is the answer. Don't be in a hurry to get into a relationship because you can never find love if you insist that you are already into it.
Try to find time to really understand your real feelings, to know who you really are, and what you really want in a relationship.
You're right, There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, but there's a compatible partnership that goes along with it.
If you already knew that you're too big to fit into a small sized t-shirt, don't give it a try. You'll probably break it and pay for the damages you have made.
If you knew and felt that the relationship will not last, don't go deeper into it. You'll just suffer the consequences and live like hell the rest of your life.
It's really hard to say goodbye though, but you can't make it any better by just pretending you still have the same feelings.
Try to let go and give yourself a chance to live life to the fullest. Give yourself a chance to grow and give your heart a much needed attention.
Then you will find that you have made the right decision and you made it all by yourself. More frequently than not, we all act in a hypocritical manner for some reason.
We call it love when we can't leave someone and see them crying as we try to let go. We are wrong, it's just pity.
We call it love when we're too attached and think that losing the one we love will somehow make us weak and unable to face the storms of life.
We misunderstood, its just that we're too much dependent to them. We call it love when we give our whole life to them, the wholeness of us
and imagined that if they leave no one would accept us and our past.
We are mistaken, its just insecurity. But no matter what the definition is, the truth still remains that love isn't something you can buy nor beg.
It is real and existing. You can't touch it but you can feel it in your heart. You can't find it, but it will knock before you when you least expect it to come.
It can make you the happiest soul in heaven, but don't forget that it also can make you the most miserable person in the whole galaxy.
Thursday, June 12, 2008
wasted
"Everyday is a clean slate; we make it what it is. If we ponder on the things we can not change then we will never have time to enjoy life for what it is, but spend all of our time thinking about what it should be."...
nobody perfect
I think about this all the time and I try like hell to live my life by it. I love my life and I am truly blessed to have the people I do in it. Some days I just can’t find the upside to things. My point is not to complain but to simply state that you can not always be "great". There are days where I find it hard to face myself in the mirror, days where I feel I just can not coupe with life. Days where no matter what I can’t crack a smile. Days filled with sadness and heartache. And then I realize I am human. I to, have feelings and I can not always wear that mask and put on a smile only to hide what I truly feel, because in the end all I am doing is shielding the world of myself.
random thoughts
Have you ever woken up one day and were just totally caught off guard by how or where you are in your life? Like it's all a dream and at any minute you are going to snap out of it and everything in life will be right again! If only life were that easy.
The reality of it all is that the only way to make life right is by doing it yourself. By going after the things that you want the most. That might mean that you will look like a fumbling idiot along the way, maybe even a jackass at times, and people will probably laugh at you. Well you know what I say, let them laugh! Because a person with passion goes after the things that they want without hesitation and without fear of how they are perceived from others. And out of all the traits that a person can possess, I would have to say that passion is amongst the top. The passion for life, the passion for love, and the passion for obtaining happiness.
I would hope that we can all have that passion and bravery in our lives; the bravery to break way those chains and pursue those pleasures in life that we seek. But with every ying there is a yang, and with that bravery will come fear. Which is only natural to fear when you have the risk of losing. But the happiness in life that we seek is worth the risk and the love that we yearn for.
Those tears on our cheek will dry up, the aching heart in our chest will heal, and the empty arms of our soul will hold another! So chin up, and put a smile on...life will get better! :-)
The reality of it all is that the only way to make life right is by doing it yourself. By going after the things that you want the most. That might mean that you will look like a fumbling idiot along the way, maybe even a jackass at times, and people will probably laugh at you. Well you know what I say, let them laugh! Because a person with passion goes after the things that they want without hesitation and without fear of how they are perceived from others. And out of all the traits that a person can possess, I would have to say that passion is amongst the top. The passion for life, the passion for love, and the passion for obtaining happiness.
I would hope that we can all have that passion and bravery in our lives; the bravery to break way those chains and pursue those pleasures in life that we seek. But with every ying there is a yang, and with that bravery will come fear. Which is only natural to fear when you have the risk of losing. But the happiness in life that we seek is worth the risk and the love that we yearn for.
Those tears on our cheek will dry up, the aching heart in our chest will heal, and the empty arms of our soul will hold another! So chin up, and put a smile on...life will get better! :-)
Tuesday, June 10, 2008
Yesterday,today,tomorrow...
yesterday is a history,
tomorrow is the mystery,
today is a gift,
that why they called it present.
master Woog Guay, "Kung fu Panda"
tomorrow is the mystery,
today is a gift,
that why they called it present.
master Woog Guay, "Kung fu Panda"
Monday, June 9, 2008
depressed
I'm depressed! Yes, I said the big 'D' word... I'm depressed.
I feel like a worthless waste of space. I feel horrible most every day. If someone asks me how I am, I tell them I'm fine; when really...not to deep inside.
I lie awake in bed, thinking thoughts unintentionally...intense and upsetting thoughts, and believe me, they’re not the most comforting thoughts to fall asleep to. The worst thing about it is that there’s nothing I can do about it. I try to think happy thoughts, I really do. But I keep coming back to the same thoughts each and ever day. I'm hardly eating, often crying, and not sleeping because I'm afraid to fall asleep. I wont let myself go there because I know once I do, all the bad dreams will start again.
Lately, I've been having a lot of dreams from the past... specifically dealing with my mom. (God I miss her!) And I understand that this is likely because 8 years ago, I was watching her go through the exact same thing that I am now dealing with. I can't do it! :-( I feel so alone through it all... and I know I'm not, because I have great relatives and friends. but just don't think I can do it!
:-( I can't imagine myself making it through...I keep imagining myself giving up and losing this battle, and it scares me,,,But how do I stop doing this?
I feel like a worthless waste of space. I feel horrible most every day. If someone asks me how I am, I tell them I'm fine; when really...not to deep inside.
I lie awake in bed, thinking thoughts unintentionally...intense and upsetting thoughts, and believe me, they’re not the most comforting thoughts to fall asleep to. The worst thing about it is that there’s nothing I can do about it. I try to think happy thoughts, I really do. But I keep coming back to the same thoughts each and ever day. I'm hardly eating, often crying, and not sleeping because I'm afraid to fall asleep. I wont let myself go there because I know once I do, all the bad dreams will start again.
Lately, I've been having a lot of dreams from the past... specifically dealing with my mom. (God I miss her!) And I understand that this is likely because 8 years ago, I was watching her go through the exact same thing that I am now dealing with. I can't do it! :-( I feel so alone through it all... and I know I'm not, because I have great relatives and friends. but just don't think I can do it!
:-( I can't imagine myself making it through...I keep imagining myself giving up and losing this battle, and it scares me,,,But how do I stop doing this?
Saturday, June 7, 2008
unanswered prayers
"Sometimes I thank God for unanswered prayers
Remember when you're talking to the man upstairs
That just because he doesn't answer doesn't mean he don't care
Some of Gods greatest gifts are unanswered prayers."
Remember when you're talking to the man upstairs
That just because he doesn't answer doesn't mean he don't care
Some of Gods greatest gifts are unanswered prayers."
Tuesday, June 3, 2008
sonnet 116
Let me not to the marriage of true minds
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:
O no! it is an ever-fixed mark
That looks on tempests and is never shaken;
It is the star to every wandering bark,
Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken
Love's not Time's fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle's compass come:
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom.
If this be error and upon me proved,
I never writ, nor no man ever loved.
William Shakespeare
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:
O no! it is an ever-fixed mark
That looks on tempests and is never shaken;
It is the star to every wandering bark,
Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken
Love's not Time's fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle's compass come:
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom.
If this be error and upon me proved,
I never writ, nor no man ever loved.
William Shakespeare
Monday, June 2, 2008
The confusion
Life can be so confusing sometimes. What to do, what not to do, what path to take, and what thoughts to listen to? So afraid of making a bad decision, life can be downright frightening. But what in life constitutes a bad decision? Is it choosing the wrong job, maybe the wrong girl or guy, or is it breaking the rules?
Sometimes bad decisions in life are necessary to find out who you are, to find what means the most to you, and to maybe find how special of a life you have. Those are not bad decisions by any means; those are simply lessons you learn, some harder than others. The bad decisions in life are the ones you make to pursue one of those lessons but then never actually learn them. Changing your life to find out who you are but then never actually looking into yourself to figure that out, is one of those mistakes.
The greatest accomplishment anyone can make is to know thyself and be happy with who you are. But what if you’re not happy with who you are or who you are with for that matter? Do you settle for something less than you deserve, or do you wait for someone who deserves you?
Sometimes bad decisions in life are necessary to find out who you are, to find what means the most to you, and to maybe find how special of a life you have. Those are not bad decisions by any means; those are simply lessons you learn, some harder than others. The bad decisions in life are the ones you make to pursue one of those lessons but then never actually learn them. Changing your life to find out who you are but then never actually looking into yourself to figure that out, is one of those mistakes.
The greatest accomplishment anyone can make is to know thyself and be happy with who you are. But what if you’re not happy with who you are or who you are with for that matter? Do you settle for something less than you deserve, or do you wait for someone who deserves you?
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